Tools for Expressing Discomfort in Rehearsal or Performance
Consent is a Practice and is Always Revocable
In any rehearsal or performance involving intimacy, physicality, or emotional vulnerability, it’s important to have clear and accessible ways to express discomfort. The following outlines several verbal, non-verbal, and post-scene tools that you can use to communicate your boundaries at any time. These options can be used alone or in combination, and you are always encouraged to propose your own.
Verbal Tools
These phrases are designed to pause or adjust the action in a neutral, respectful way.
“Can we pause?”
“Hold.”
“I need a break.”
“I’m at capacity.”
“That’s a no for me.”
“I need to step out.”
Verbal Stoplight System
The meaning of each colour must be discussed and agreed on in advance.
Green – All good
Yellow – Proceed with caution / I’m unsure
Red – Stop immediately
Non-Verbal Tools
These are helpful when speaking isn’t possible or if you're in the middle of a scene.
Hand Raise
“Time Out” Signal
Hand to Floor
Silent Step Back
Stop and Drop
Post-Rehearsal Tools
Boundaries can shift. You don’t have to speak up in the moment to be heard.
Private Check-Ins – One-on-one conversations before or after rehearsal.
Written Communication – Text or email if verbal communication feels too difficult.
Scheduled Debriefs – Built-in time to reflect with the intimacy professional or director.
You Are Not Alone
Your safety, autonomy, and comfort are essential. You never need to explain or apologize for expressing a boundary. Consent is always revocable.
You can change your “yes” to a “no” at any time.
Let’s build rehearsal rooms that are creative, collaborative, and rooted in mutual care.